You ever feel like someone who walked out of your life back then is missing out on the best parts of you right now? Like the same person who gave up on you years back didn’t stick around to experience the benefits of your growth? I have something to say about that: They don’t deserve the best parts of you now if they couldn’t withstand the worse parts of you then!
Don’t get me wrong, some people aren’t worth the wait. If they have abused you in anyway, be it physical, emotional or mentally, those things can be traumatizing, therefore leaving a scar on your broken heart. Even if they have lied, hid secrets or cheated, realistically, this probably wouldn’t last upon reconciliation.
My focus group are those you simply can’t benefit. Say you didn’t have enough credit back then, have enough or make enough money, etc.. Basically you weren’t a settled, mature person. You were limited in everything except your intelligence, yet you needed someone to have faith that your next chapter would be a good one.
Okay, fast forward to just a few years later. You are the best you’ve ever been. Good credit, nice car, fully-furnished living quarters, 401k, and a great job with even better benefits. On top of all that, you have experienced a significant amount of mental and spiritual growth.
If this is you and that is what happened- They don’t deserve your presence. For clarification: Unless you two had a mutual agreement to “take time” to work on yourselves individually, this is for you.
Don’t allow that same person who didn’t walk through the mud with you to enjoy your finished construction.
Make it your business to know that those who are meant to be in your life never left it in the first place.
