Make sure you tell her that children should come after she’s no longer a child herself.
Tell her that having a child before it’s time, is the fastest way to commit suicide on her social life.
Tell her that a baby has never kept, is not currently keeping, or will ever keep her child’s father around. Be sure to add that a boy will be a boy, regardless of the circumstance.
Tell her that the torment she will endure on her body is life-changing. No matter what it looks like on the outside, that it will NEVER be the same again.
Tell her that diapers, formula, clothing, childcare, and doctor visit co-pays aren’t cheap.
Tell her that her part-time job won’t cut it if she’s the single mother of an immature young man’s baby.
Tell her that thinking of giving her child his last name while he isn’t deserving of it during her pregnancy is a gift she should give to herself.
Tell her that her nights will be late and her mornings will be early…
Tell her that breastfeeding a baby is not a game…that what she eats or drinks the baby will consume and the job IS harder than mixing water and formula. *This one is important*
Tell her that having a baby before she finishes her self-goals WILL require major sacrifice. She will have to selflessly give up some things.
Tell your beautiful, young Queens that they deserve to live their best lives…BEFORE they start to live it for someone else.
So many of us, women, have experienced this. We want babies (“mini me” is what we call them). Some of us have a spoon. Some of us have to go find a spoon. We have to be the backbone. We have to be the providers. We have to bandage the boo boo’s. We have kiss the scars. We have to hold our babies through their pain.
On top of that…
We have to pay our bills. We have to go sign up for the assistance. We have to go punch the clock. We will gladly sit on the bench to cheer on our babies activities. These ladies are the real MVPs. We go out and get it out the mud.
I’m proud of the ladies who’ve been through or currently going through that I see currently working, attending college and/or walking the stage. It’s incredible the motivation we gain by looking into the eyes of our babies everyday.
Tell them that their future babies DESERVE THE BEST THEM! THESE BABIES DON’T DESERVE TO BE SHORTCHANGED!
Tell them that happy mothers make happy children. That boy that’s ALREADY stressing her doesn’t deserve her precious egg. Her baby deserves BETTER than him.
It’s our job to protect our children. No two parents will have the same approach because not two children are the same. Just make sure you deliver the message to your young Queens. They deserve that FROM you.
Until Next Time…
-Alex
